Criticized, talked about and dismissed are just some of the negative feelings that haunt every adult adoptee. The question as to “why my birth parents abandoned me?” keeps flashing in their thoughts every single night.
When feeling of being dismissed sets in
The role of the birth parents is very crucial here. Honesty said in a loving manner is the only way to let these adult adoptees know the real reason behind the placement. If nothing is said or explained to them, they will surely look for answers eventually. Oftentimes, the answers that get through them might not be the exact reason why you considered them for an adoption. This might just leave them feeling dismissed and resented. The adoptive parents also have an important role in preventing an adoptee to lurk in negative thoughts. Giving them the opportunity to lovingly open their hearts out is the first step to combat the negative emotions.
Nowadays, the adoptive community is growing and these adult adoptees gave light to several adoption issues. The need for cultural awareness and family support is imperative for an adult adoptee. They also showed the society the importance of relationships with the birth family. The importance of telling young adoptees in a loving manner regarding their adoption is also one way to uplift them. Secrecy and silence in adoption is now considered as folklore, especially in the case of an adult adoptee. They have the right to know their past. Even if adoptive parents void them of that, they will surely find their own path, in one way or another. There are also various support groups where adult adoptees can share their own experiences and learn from one another’s challenges. This in return will help them venture into life with a positive attitude.
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